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Hey Reader,

Seeing Tot at the vet recently got me thinking about one of my favorite concepts:

What you focus on grows.

The vet might actually be his favorite place.

The second we walk in, his whole body is wagging. While we wait, he tracks every shadow under the door, so excited to see who’s coming to say hello next.

His thoughts, best I can tell: Treats! Friends! Squirt cheese! Peanut butter!

Our old pup Booyeah did not feel the same.
Same place. Same circumstance.

Her thoughts: Danger! Needles! Gross meds! Your food is a trick!

Same visit. Same prodding and attention.
Two completely different experiences, based on what each of them focused on.

The same is true for you and me.​
We can walk into the same Monday morning, the same hard conversation, the same situation, and have entirely different experiences depending on where our minds go.

Both pups were right.
The food is a trick. And it’s treats.
There are needles. And lots of pets.

Booyeah didn’t have the ability to change her experience by changing her focus.

But you do.

And you don’t have to lie to yourself about what’s hard or uncomfortable.

You’re simply choosing which part of the experience you give more of your attention to.

This week, when something you're not looking forward to is ahead of you, pause for just a second.

Ask yourself: what part of this could I actually look forward to? It doesn't have to be big. Tot would tell you even the squirt cheese counts.

XO,

Missy

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Learning to work with your brain instead of against it is exactly what we do in coaching.

If you want support shifting what you focus on and how you experience your day-to-day, you can learn more or book a call here.

On the Calendar

• April 16: Have you registered for an Unofficial Connection Hub ladies' happy hour at Village Artist Market. 6:00 p.m.
• May 12: I'm hosting a workshop, Change the Music, Change Your Results, virtually at 6:00 p.m. This is available inside the Hive membership.