Hey Reader,

An idea to try on this week...

Trying to think positive is getting in your way of thinking and acting powerfully.

So often my clients tell me what's going on with them and then say some version of, "I know... I should think positive." And I typically disagree.

Usually when someone says that, they are trying to put a positive spin on something they don't feel good about. I bet you can relate it.

It's fighting reality rather than trying to get powerful within it.

There is no shame in this. We all do it! I caught myself doing it last night when my friend thoughtfully texted me, "Happy Solstice" and I realized I had let it slip by this year.

My immediate reaction was disappointment that I wasn't celebrating it intentionally like I typically do. And then I came up with a very inauthentic, slightly positive spin, "It's OK, you've had a full week and you got to spend a ton of time outside yesterday!"

But that reaction fell quite short of helping me feel better. So I stopped trying to be positive and started thinking powerfully.

Instead of pretending I was fine with spending the longest day of the year in a city hotel rather than soaking it in on a beautiful sunset trail. I asked myself a simple question, "What do I need right now?"

The answer: Sunshine and time to think.

So I detoured to a favorite brewery with outdoor seating, sat in the sunshine, and reflected on the lovely spring we just had.

Powerful, real thoughts followed up with actions.

So much more useful than a half-hearted positive spin.

So this week my challenge is for you to notice:

Are you pretending things are better than they are or working to make them better?

Ask yourself with kindness and curiosity. No judgment!

And then remember that you, my friend, are powerful as heck! And you don't always have to be positive to prove it.

XO,

Missy

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