Hey Reader, I learned a new word last week, courtesy of the brilliant Brene Brown. You're going to want to know it too! Confabulation. Confabulation: A lie, honestly told. It's fascinating. I've been thinking and talking about this concept for years, focused on the lies we tell ourselves that we believe without question. I've never had a word for it until this week. And now that I can name it, I see how often we confabulate. It's even more than I suspected! Here are two examples from my life...
21 days ago • 2 min read
Hey Reader, An idea to try on this week... Trying to think positive is getting in your way of thinking and acting powerfully. So often my clients tell me what's going on with them and then say some version of, "I know... I should think positive." And I typically disagree. Usually when someone says that, they are trying to put a positive spin on something they don't feel good about. I bet you can relate it. It's fighting reality rather than trying to get powerful within it. There is no shame...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, Thursday night, near the end of a long, full week, I cut into an avocado only to discover it wasn’t ripe. If you're an avocado lover - you get it. It's the worst. I had a moment. Brief, but dramatic. You know the feeling? A tiny thing goes wrong and you have an outsized reaction. So many of us judge ourselves in that moment. Sure, I could’ve beaten myself up for the unnecessary, dramatic - and let’s be honest therapeutic - hurling of each half of the avocado into the woods. 🤷🏻♀️...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
Totten in his radio days Hey Reader, Do you remember the first thought that popped into your mind when you woke up this morning? Was it: “Ugh, I need 3 more hours of sleep.” “Mondays are the worst.” “Today’s going to be a good day.” Our brains start offering us thoughts before our feet even hit the floor. And once you start paying attention, you’ll notice those thoughts usually carry a certain vibe. I like to think of them as music stations. There’s a specific energy behind them that’s worth...
2 months ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, What are you listening to these days? Podcasts, music, the news, books, meditations? Single speed or sped up? And more importantly… how’s all of that noise making you feel? Energized? Frustrated? Overwhelmed? Calm? Most of us hit play without pausing to think: Will listening to this help fuel me forward or be an energetic drag as I start my week? As you kick off your week - consider pausing before you hit play on your usual routine. And choose a soundtrack that aligns with how you...
3 months ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, A couple weeks ago, I wrote about my struggle with being a slightly messy human my whole life, and I shared the full story here: I found a gap in my own coaching. Many of you wrote back saying you want to solve this too. Today, I’ll give you a quick inside look at the mindset that has driven me over the past few weeks and has led my home to stay tidier than it’s ever been. You can do this too! Yes, I’ve been implementing strategies you’ve probably heard of before, like the...
3 months ago • 2 min read
Hey Reader, In 1967, a woman laced up her shoes, put on her lipstick, and decided she didn't need anyone's permission. Neither do you. Kathrine Switzer (and all other women) had been told she couldn't run the Boston Marathon. Among the reasons? We were considered too fragile to run that far. 🙄 Kathrine knew that was bull. So she registered under K.V. Switzer, laced up her shoes, and gave herself permission to run the Boston Marathon. Today, thousands of women follow in her footsteps. Whether...
3 months ago • 1 min read
A quick note before we talk pups... You’re getting this email as part of the Missy Frisch Coaching list. If you’d rather only hear about Unofficial Connection Hub events, like the April 16th happy hour, you can update your preferences using the link at the bottom of this email. Hey Reader, Seeing Tot at the vet recently got me thinking about one of my favorite concepts: What you focus on grows. The vet might actually be his favorite place. The second we walk in, his whole body is wagging....
4 months ago • 1 min read
Asheville Half Marathon! Hey Reader, Chances are pretty good you're going to have something to do this week that feels hard. Maybe it's a conversation, a workout, or something new you're learning. Here is what I want to offer you as you get ready for it. Hard can just be part of it. I ran a half marathon this weekend here in Asheville and really enjoyed watching my mind during the race. That little voice kept pointing out the challenging parts. It kept trying to convince me to slow down, to...
4 months ago • 1 min read